Living with my in laws

 Dear readers ,

I am an indian professional living in a modern cosmopolititan city and im living with my in laws.

Yes, i am sensetive , yes i have moodswings and yes, i do have issues living with my in laws but i would love to know your opinions about my life situation to get some feedback.

Long story short it has been four years now . We live in my in laws house and i am married to their only son . My husband has 3 older sisters -they are unmarried ( in their 40s and it does not seem like they are interested to get married). We live on the second level opposite my parents in laws room and his 3 older sisters each have their own rooms on the 3rd and 4th floor .

Being an only child, i was ecstatic that my husband had 3 sisters . I thought this meant that i was gaining 3 sisters , the joy of a girl group to support through this new phase of life was something i was looking forward to immensely.

Alas , on the day i moved in , i got the biggest shock of my life . Our room was the smallest in the house and the toilet we had to use was at another level . All of his sisters had rooms double the size of ours with attached toilets or toilets just outside their rooms. This had already left a weird taste in my mouth. I was told by my husband that was his room since childhood hence it is to be assumed that that shall be our marital room as well as it is not nice to expect his sisters to give up their rooms. In my family, we usually welcome the wedded couple by making sure their living situation is looked into and optimized . Is it wrong of me to feel upset ? How would someone else in my position feel? How were we to even start a family if our room can only fit the bed and a 3 door cupboard , where do we put the babys cot ? All these questions ran through my head and made me very uneasy . Nonetheless, i could not do anything about it so i just went with the flow .

In the days to come, i realised that i was never going to be a part of the “ sisterhood” that they had . Nobody tried to get to know me , understand me, assimilate me into my family . I really felt i was on my own . My husband tried here and there but mostly told me to make an effort to initiate conversations. I am not the most sociable or outgoing person when it comes to new faces . I felt all alone , and this was the way it was going to be for the next 4 years …

My freedom, my privacy and even my happiness was all slowly dissapearing . Perhaps , it is my fault, perhaps i didnt try hard enough. I dont know . But all i know is , i am in an unhappy space . We well have the finances to rent but my husband was against it . We have gotten our own house , it was renovated and ready to be moved into but my husband is not ready to leave the family nest . He feels by doing so he is abandoning his responsibility to his family . But how about his responsibility to me and the little birdie growing in my tummy ? Yes, i am pregnant and in my 1st trimester . Please i would really appreciate some help and advise on how to proceed